Glenn Doman’s Thoughts on Child Birth Spacing for Early Teaching Families

Early Learning Homes & Child Birth Spacing: Thinking About Family Planning

My second-born and firstborn sons, at ages 5 days and six years

In his book on infant stimulation in the first year of life, Glenn Doman writes,

“An 18- to 30-month-old child wants fulltime attention from his mother. He not only wants her undivided attention, but he really needs it. He is not fully independent in anything except getting into trouble. We strongly recommend that the first baby be given the time and attention he needs to gain independence. Usually between the ages of three and four he is able to take care of himself – and what is equally important, help mother. It is very important for the first child to be able to contribute to the new baby from the start. If older brother or sister is simply too immature to be helpful, he or she will compete with the baby for time and attention.”

For an early teaching family, I can say I certainly agree with Doman in this aspect. I really love the concept of keeping my baby the baby for as long as possible.

  • I want to be able to give each child the gift of focused attention (teaching, stimulation, and talking together) when they are young, in the most important brain development years of their life (ages 0-3).
  • It is extremely practical to only have one extremely needy child (aka: baby) at a time when you are in the position of being a teacher for your little ones. It is much easier to manage the demands of planning learning activities, housework, and childcare when there is only one small child at a time, and the other child or children are able to help out and be independent.

As a bonus, I love being able to extend my childbearing years by spacing them out a tad bit further than “normal”. I love getting to start over with each baby.

I also love the relationship that my two boys have. Because there was a large gap between them (six years and two months), the oldest is so protective, caring, helpful, and kind with his baby brother. They adore each other so much, and miss each other terribly when one is away. They play together constantly. It is so beautiful to watch, and I enjoy not having to deal with sibling rivalry.

We plan on having a third child somewhere around three or four years after the second child (which is actually coming up soon – if we are to have an exactly three-year age gap I would have to become pregnant within the next three months!)



What do you think about revolving your family planning around your early learning practices and beliefs? I know that for some people, larger spacing wasn’t an option, and for some people closer spacing is simply a preference. I would love to hear what works out for your family.

Hunter is currently 8 years, 3 months old
Damien is currently 2 years, 0 months

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